Cheaters gonna cheat

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They say "Once a cheater always a cheater" 

Cheating has been one of the hottest topics lately, around social media.. Let's blog it up.

Just some sort of throwback, I've been also cheated on before, I forgave for the nth times, yes, I tolerated it. 

And in the end what happened? I was still left in pain, but I chose to stay and make things work again and again every single day, because I love the person so much. They said i'm so "bobo" and so martyr, but I have no choice, I just really love the person so much (before), that's why I chose to forgive, understand, and stay, even if it was repeated for a several times. 

You can't blame me, and you can't also blame those people like me (before). Honestly, sometimes because of so much betrayal, I also my found myself in a situation, that I am becoming one of those cheaters. But I reminded myself that revenge is not always the answer. 

It will just ruin everything more. 

Some say that love makes a person blind, but I just realize that we are the one who decide for ourselves, and make our own choices. If we choose to stay in a situation like that, then it's our fault, and we must not blame "love" . 

 

Because love must come easy, not so difficult and consuming.  

It just happened to me, maybe because that was my first time entering a relatonship? or maybe because,  I was still young at that time. 17. I can't decide firmly yet, and I was still deceived by the concept love from fairytales, and did not realize that reality hits really different and slaps big time. 

One day I just woke up, and realized that, I already got tired and fell out of love. I got tired because of the cycle.

 At first, I cursed and hated that person so much, I was so wasted, but it was all useless. So  I helped myself recover.

I was hurt. I was devastated, but I managed, because I was already used to that feeling. I already experienced it many times, and at the back of my mind, I thought that yes maybe, I'm hurt, I was betrayed, I keep on going back, but this  time I know, I am not coming back, and I know myself that, I won't give a damn anymore.

 I let myself mourn for a couple of months, I enjoyed the tears and the pain, and slowly focused on myself, forgive those who hurt me, and valued my peace of mind, and just accepted the whole situation, and respected their reasons. 

 And I realized that, no matter how much you love one person, if things, seems to don't work anymore between the both of you, there's no solution to that. Just leave coz' it's not worth it anymore. If you chose to stay, you'll just hurt yourself more, as well as your partner. Everything will just going to be miserable if you force to continue your relationship.  

 Leave and save yourself before its too late. Don't always let them take advantage of you. 

If your partner cheated once? Maybe you can give him/her chance to prove himself/herself to another person this time, and not to you anymore. haha. Girl, leave! Though I can't manipulate your decisions , and I'm not telling you to obey my suggestions in this blog. This was all just my suggestions, and just my mere opinions. I still do respect your descision. Everyone deserves second chances, and it's your choice to give them that. 

 So going back, if he already did it once, he'll probably do it again and again and again. Coz' cheaters gonna cheat darling. We are not being judgy here, but as what we have observed, that quote from the beginning of this blog, is so so legit. Ask them. 

What's the point of your relationship, if the other one is cheating? That doesn't make any sense. 

No matter what is his/her reason for cheating... Cheating is cheating. 

Faithfulness and discipline is the key. 

Because if you do value your partner that much, even if the world throw you a lot of temptations, you will never be tempted, because you are contented with your partner and your relationship. 

We are all sinners here, but let us learn to break the cycle. Because the more we tolerate it, the higher the tendecy, that the other people, would still do it. 

Break the cycle.

 Respect your partners, know their worth, leave if you got tempted, don't take advantage of anyone, and don't wait for everything to get worse. Don't be a burden to someone with pure intentions. Because if you cheat, those three words can't even sugar-coat it. Trust is so fragile. So just don't. 

xoxo