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How to Deal with Tocixity

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https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/46091596178048650/ Dealing with toxicity has been already a great challenge for all of us.  As days goes by we experience different levels of toxicity in our lives. Some are being challenged by the people around them. Some are being challenged by their work or their co-workers. Some are being challenged by their family. Some are being challenged even by themselves. Toxicity is inevitable, because we tend to not break the chain. That is why I salute those brave people who have the courage to break such norms,  but remember that no matter how much good you are...  people will tend to always have their guns loaded with bullets,  circling in there and always ready to shoot you.  They will test your patience until they prove everyone that you're the one in the wrong. It always works that way. It all fucking works that way. Nobody will give a damn for you, it's only you yourself  who will. So might as well mind your own business, and ...

Page One

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Photosource: https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/11751649019693138/ The pages has turned and I am giving myself a fresh start to learn something new, to improve and to leave everything behind that has been already part of the past.  2022 has been one of my best year, I got a lot of achievements, realizations, and lessons. Now I have this urge to do more and be more, but the only problem is I don't where to start, just like writing a story without a proper beginning.  I am lost with my words, and I can't even force myself to move because there is something that hinders me inside.  Am I afraid?  Am I ashamed?  Am I doubting myself?  I don't know maybe some you already felt this kind of feeling.  Maybe I am just being overwhelmed by my thoughts? or maybe I'm just over-reacting . I have so many plans but I can't even pick one to start with because  I want it to be accomplished right away. Then I realized that I should take everything slowly and just patientl...

Love is not enough

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Photosource:pinterest.ph/pin/1055599903042640/ What do we do to sustain our relationship How do we keep our bond?  How to keep the fire burning? It suck that we tend to end everything up when we experienced some life fucking situations.  Does the number of how long you've been together equate love? Hell NO.  Does miscommunications, arguments equate LOVE? Hell NO.  Love is not always about kisses, roses, and butterflies.  Face the reality itself.  As you grow, your love will also grow in so many different ways, it's a matter of how long you want to choose each other.  It's a matter of how will you gonna help each other overcome that life fucking situations to come up with a solution.  Grow on your own.  Growing on your own is different from growing together, but growing on your own doesn't mean that you're abandoning each other, you cannot always depend yourself to your better half, you should also learn how to grow on your own.  If you'l...

Just random thoughts

 You said you won't settle for less anymore, you said you already know your worth? But I guess love goggles really can make people blind. Does it sound familiar? I know you already heard it before. What are you doing now? I know you'll do it now or never. It's easy for you to compromise because you already love the person. Just be cautious enough not to hurt yourself anymore. Think about if it's worth fighting for, cause in the end it's you yourself who will save you. 

Even superheroes can bleed

We will never know when, where, or how our depression will strike. This feeling suck especially when you gotta pretend that you're fine in front of other people because you need to avoid being so dramatic over things that just not makes any sense. For some maybe its nonsense but for you it isn't. I know we all are just trying to survive everyday and we struggle in differently from each other, but there is nothing wrong in letting yourself feel that sadness sometimes. There is nothing wrong in crying sometimes. There is nothing wrong in letting out that heavy feeling in your chest. Who said superheroes can't bleed? Even superheroes can bleed, so you are. 

Normalize this, normalize that

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    photosource:  https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/4503668369902419/ People will hate you if you perceive life differently.  They hate it when its obvious that you can understand everything much deeper, than they can. It sucks, because the society dictates what we should be.  The society sets the standard.  The society tells us what is pretty or not, what is good or bad, and if you defy them, you'll be cancelled. Funny how we got used to this system.  We built our own jail and it's chains are made up of other people's opinion, wanna know how to get out of it?  Just ignore everything.  Sometimes you must also ignore even the greater good.  It's hard to live in a world where you are afraid to step out, where you are afraid to speak up, where you can't express yourself freely.  Today many people are bold enough to speak truth themselves.  They have learned to use their voice.  They have learned to fight for their freedom.  T...

Adulting

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photosource:https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/14496030041814415/ I know I am already in the early stage of adulting. I can already feel it as days goes by, and there comes some times where I space out and think about how did the adults survived everyday living? It so hard to wake up every single day repeating the cycle. Facing adulting is as difficult as facing the reality. It's challenging indeed. It's about how you'll build an empire for your own future. How will you will be able to make history. This will never be easy, so choose to survive everyday. Expect that there'll be ups and downs, so make sure never to lose your track. -ofelijahnicolle, xoxo